Fabulous Fridays: Eloping the new 2017 trend ... to do it or not to do it
Posted by Deniesha Johnson
For some the idea of eloping is a thought lead from the built up stress and/or family arguments your wedding planning and choice of spouse has brought on. "Let's just elope!" is usually said out of frustration to avoid the obvious but is it really what you want?
For a small few, the idea of eloping is perfect... intimate, just about them and their love for one another. No need to share that moment because its only about the life and future they want to build with one another.
Today, one of the top trends is that couples are choosing to elope rather than put on a big wedding. Here are a list of pros and cons that may come with the choosing to elope.
Pros to running off and eloping:
- The two of you avoid the hassle of month's of planning for a big wedding
- You save thousands of dollars that you can use for your first home together or a more lavish honeymoon
- No family drama, especially if they don't agree with your choice of spouse or issues with friends that don't get along
- It can be spontaneous in a way
- And what's more romantic and old fashioned than truly running away and eloping just the two of you as representation of your love?!
Cons to eloping you may want to consider:
- You'll miss out the opportunity to celebrate with your family and friends. Which some may have hurt feelings behind your exclusion. This may cause an even bigger riff between your spouse and your parents.
- You'll miss out on the opportunity to reconnect with friends and family you haven't seen in a long time who live far away.
- You'll miss out on the opportunity to get photos and memories of that day. Instead of you in that beautiful setting in that beautiful gown or tux, you have a few pictures of you from that day in an impersonal space with no familiar faces surrounding you.
- You'll always feel like you missed out on the wedding of your dreams... the wedding you could have had.
If you still believe that eloping is for you, here are a few things to consider in your plans:
Carefully research the city/state laws regarding the marriage license as you may not be able to apply for your license and get married on the same day. In some places it could take up to a week to process before you can say "I Do!".
Have a ceremony for just the two of you but host a big reception for your family and friends to celebrate with you afterward.
Invite your parents and or just your best man and maid of honor and celebrate with dinner after.
Hire a photographer or videographer to come with you and send out a great wedding announcement to all of your friends and family.
Elope today but have a big celebration on your 5th or 10th year wedding anniversary and send out an announcement "We tied the knot on August 18, 2017 just the two of us but we'd ask that you come and celebrate with us on your 5th year wedding anniversary on August 18, 2022."
Last, hire a planner (D. Johnson & Co Events) to help coordinate your travel arrangements, to do the research and help to make your elopement process that much smoother.
If you're considering eloping or have eloped, what other tips would you like to share for those considering to run away and get married too?